Things to ConsiderIf you are a Husband...
Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take your wife for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with in your marriage. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love - What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, undoubtedly you will see reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point that you can no longer see anything but love, and you will know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife. Your job as husband is to love her as she is, with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.If you are a wife...
Fall in love over and over again. You will both constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. Always fight to get and more importantly keep his love, just as you did when you were being courted by him.For you Both
NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!
Our StoryWhere is your marriage - do you remember how and when you fell in love?
Todd and Lisa have a unique story that needs to be told. They are currently turning their story into training for law enforcement, fire, military personnel and any other business professionals. However, here is a glimps into what can happen when you let life and careers get in the way of remembering how to remain as happy as you felt on the day that you were married.
Todd and Lisa met in March of 2000 while they were both working at the Phoenix Police Department. They talked, found some common interests, started to date and fell in love. They both knew that this love was something very special and rare; They married June of 2001. Collectively between the two of them, they had four awesome boys. So, they settled nicely into their new life with the combined families.
At the time, Todd was working in a long-term undercover position with the police department. He had numerous ‘bad’ guy looks and his family was continually on high alert because of this life-style full of daily uncertainty. Although law enforcement professionals do not like to admit weakness or mistakes, the effects of undercover work effected Todd's life and his perspective on reality and the undercover world he was consumed by while at work. The line between good and bad was somewhat lost or grayed and turning off the 'bad guy' persona was not as easy as taking a uniform off at the end of your shift. No lines of morality or ethics were crossed, but undercover work certainly effected Todd's demeanor and their marriage relationship.
Meanwhile, Lisa’s abusive childhood took a toll on their relationship due to insecurities and lack of trust instilled in Lisa as a child and maintained into adulthood.
As anyone can see when the words and events are put down on paper, these obstacles, coupled with normal marriage difficulties were compounded by the law enforcement factor. Loss of trust between Todd and Lisa led to loss of love and their communcation broke down to a point of nonexistence. Their marriage had changed and no longer possessed a safe place to communicate. As a result, they both felt that they lost each other and divorced in 2003.
Ten years later, Todd and Lisa finally sat down to talk about what happened. They were uniquely and profoundly struck by wrongfully perceived perspectives on their failed marriage and relationship. However, through open and successful communication, the past was thoroughly discussed and they soon realized that they had divorced for the wrong reasons, culminating with lack of communication.
In 2013, Todd and Lisa are back together as a couple and stronger than ever. There was no denying that Todd and Lisa are soul mates and belong with each other for life!
Todd and Lisa are developing some training around their story to present primarily to police, fire and military because of their unique similaritaries of career struggels, but also believe that this training would be beneficial to anyone who has lost sight of when and how they fell in love. This is a 'must see' training. Todd and Lisa had a 10 year break up that was caused by a few minor issues - do not want this to happen to your relationship!
Your marriage should be the most important factor between husband and wife - your job or career is merely a small portion of your lifetime together!
Here is a little reminder about how easily we can forget, Click Here